1. DON’T BE OBNOXIOUS
If you do something obnoxious to get my attention, you can guarantee I am going to make you wait. Just as you or a loved one wishes to be treated with respect so do I. Just because I am serving you for the evening does NOT make me your servant to treat however you may like. At some point depending on your behavior it isn’t even about the tip anymore, its principal.
2. ORDERING IT “STRONG” ≠ MORE ALCOHOL
Please don’t try to order your drink “strong” and expect me to give you way more liquor than is standard for what you ordered. While it is true that some bartenders may ease their hand with their regulars…if you want a drink stronger just order a double. And yes, that means it will cost you more.
3. YES, THIS IS MY REAL JOB.
Please don’t ask what my REAL job is when I am not tending bar. Believe it or not, talented bartenders make a living doing just that. These days, we’re often called mixologists and take refresher courses throughout the year to keep up on the latest trends and drinks.
4. WE NOTICE EVERYTHING
We notice a lot. We notice if you come in with a different date every week. We notice if you seem to hit on whichever bartender serves you that evening. We even notice if you consider our bar services as therapy which is fine… just tip accordingly! Most bartenders can tell when a marriage is on the rocks or a couple is fighting even if it isn’t apparent. That is our intuition and people skills at work. We take notice of everyone and everything around us.
5. DOLLAR TIPS VS. 20% TIPS
The old dollar-a-drink tip works fine if you’re ordering a beer or a drink on the rocks. Something straight. (Unless you’re ordering an expensive bourbon or whiskey, then what I’m saying next applies.) But if you order a drink that requires more effort than that and a bunch of preparation, mixing, ingredients etc., then the standard 20% tipping rates should apply to whatever amount your drink costs. Especially if you want to keep getting served well by me.
Please just be mindful that your bartender is human too and just trying to make a living. We don’t like to be degraded, insulted, harassed or anything of the likes. And we like to be compensated for the hard work that we do do. Often times we are on our feet for 12 hours a day trying to please our customers and come up with new and interesting concoctions just for your enjoyment. A little appreciation of that goes a long way in your bartenders eyes, trust me!
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