We often see/hear stories on the news of celebrities who do not leave tips. Sometimes we get a chuckle out of it, like when the image of a bad tipper is matched with the personality of a diva. Otherwise, it’s just cringe worthy, like when an NFL superstar leaves 20 cents on a $60 bill (talk about someone who needs a free tipping calculator!).
So being a server myself, perhaps you’d be surprised to hear that I actually think tip shaming is wrong. I don’t think it gets us (as service industry workers) anything besides more contempt. Now don’t get me wrong, I think tipping should be second nature to all restaurant goers, all bar patrons, anyone visiting a hotel, Uber/Lyft riders, and even coffee lovers. But I don’t think we get the point across by shaming poor celebrity behavior.
And that’s because these celebrity tip stories only make the news due to the person that it is someone famous and we can all collectively shame that person while pretending to care about the poor waiter or waitress. In the end, it’s just a higher form of gossip. And a way of making ourselves better by belittling icons we are intimidated by otherwise.
The amount someone tips is always held private by me even if I’m upset. I believe that I’m a thoroughbred professional and that means when someone wrongs me, I don’t shame them back. Instead, I work even harder by spreading the word just how much tips are needed in the service industry. Personally I’d rather work on teaching people how o calculate tips or even the etiquette on how to tip (no religious messages in lieu of money, please).
To each, their own. I understand why scorned waiters or waitresses use tip shaming. And I certainly hope we get to the point where we no longer need to do so.